Tuesday, July 25, 2006

Generic Condolence Cards Seem Wrong, To Me

Yesterday I had to go buy a condolence card, which, putting aside the issue of the loss, is always problematic. The messages are never right, but you want at least “In Sympathy” or something simple on it to make it different from just a regular blank card. Mostly they’re super religious, or offer sentiments that are, I think, falsely soothing (cherish the memories), and especially, they tend to be too flowery-looking. Also – different recipients call for different cards, I feel. So I found one that looked pretty ok, but it was part of a multi-pack. “So you always have them on hand,” it said. Well, yes, people will die. But something about preparing for this in multiple... not to mention the “getting a deal” aspect of it, it was significantly cheaper, just strikes me as somewhat less than sympathetic. So, possibly, my condolence cards will continue to be a little late, but at least they won’t be generic.

4 comments:

carolyn said...

one year i took a tip from martha or someone like that and went out in january and bought ALL the birthday cards i would need for the ENTIRE year... great idea except when people's birthdays rolled around, i would decide i didn't like any of those cards anymore and have to go buy new ones...

teo said...

I experience what you describe every mother's and father's day. In recent years, I've found myself buying a card in no more than three and a half minutes. Which feels kind of lame, because, well, Mom has spent more time and money on me than three and a half minutes and a buck and a half. Yet there I am, racing into Dominicks at the last minute to grab a card that looks pretty ok. But hey, at least we're not just doing the internet e-card bit...YET.

Betsy said...

This is what I'm saying, guys.
And hell will freeze over before I send an e-card.

smussyolay said...

i just get blank cards for condolences. actually, i get blank cards for everything. i'm the one whose card gets 'put aside for later.' i can't help myself. if it's worth giving a card for, it's worth some words.

that's just me.