tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post5813787521158625974..comments2024-03-02T05:18:13.619-05:00Comments on standBy Bert: How To Be Lloyd DoblerElizabeth Cranehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12506529878062016297noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-91471489191068881452024-03-02T05:18:13.619-05:002024-03-02T05:18:13.619-05:00I just watched Say Anything for the third time and...I just watched Say Anything for the third time and then googled ‘Lloyd Dobler is the perfect man’ because I wanted to see my thoughts validated and to see Lloyd Dobler get the appreciation he deserves. This blog post certainly scratched that itch.<br />I love the point you make about how it’s easier to just be a nice, authentic guy who acknowledges his feelings and desires rather than some repressed macho type who views every interaction as a performative struggle for dominance. <br />I wouldn’t want to see Lloyd Dobler with Diane Court in the long-term, because she lacks the same passion for him that he has for her and that I would have for him. <br />Long live Lloyd!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-8803137590341439392011-08-10T16:06:48.792-04:002011-08-10T16:06:48.792-04:00Well, thanks!Well, thanks!Elizabeth Cranenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-59694126730544201092011-08-09T22:05:44.616-04:002011-08-09T22:05:44.616-04:00I came by here to steal your Lloyd picture and stu...I came by here to steal your Lloyd picture and stuck around to read. This is the best thing I've ever read. :-)Queen of Cupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15140849488582632293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-31958113340295743712011-06-05T16:26:27.110-04:002011-06-05T16:26:27.110-04:00thank you for writing about Lloyd Dobler, here i a...thank you for writing about Lloyd Dobler, here i am getting tired of dating, of waiting, that i was almost about to give up on Lloyd Dobler, i thought maybe he was just some fantasy, like most hollywood movies. But you're right, he can still be out there, and its easy to choose to be a Lloyd Dobler. Thanks for the reminder.Kristine Abantehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08286765300635737065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-69956548841650340322009-06-18T13:29:25.559-04:002009-06-18T13:29:25.559-04:00I'm finding this post a year later and just af...I'm finding this post a year later and just after re-watching Say Anything. My relationship just ended. I'm not sure why, but I just had to watch Dobler again. I relate to that character in a lot of ways; the movie could've been about my relationship. The difference being, we're likely not getting back together. But it's good to know that there are women out there who do get the Dobler types. If I can be so bold to include myself as that type, I can say that we are trying to be men. Good men. We know what we don't want (even if we don't always know what we do want). We know that we really enjoy loving our women. And that is a worthy goal in life.<br /><br />Thanks for this post!Matthewnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-20046192194470145292008-06-18T17:39:00.000-04:002008-06-18T17:39:00.000-04:00i argue this however: diane court did not deserve ...i argue this however: diane court did not deserve to have a lloyd dobler in her life. he was waaay too good for her. any daughter who would willingly and quickly (!) walk away from her father after all he did for her and for how long he stayed by her...not cool! Men and fathers make mistakes too and I think it was telling that Crowe decided to make Diane's father's crime to be more on the benign side. It'd be harder to forgive your dad if you found out he was say, a serial killer OR child molestor? Food for some thought.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-86324782158094430712008-06-08T17:23:00.000-04:002008-06-08T17:23:00.000-04:00Very very glad you shared this. Not only because I...Very very glad you shared this. Not only because I had a small silly photo of Lloyd Dobler taped onto a <I>trapper keeper</I>-type thing once upon a time, but because it is so lovely and true and was a joy to read. And, I think it must be forwarded to the Lloyd Dobler I know, too, who sometimes doesn't realize his own Lloyd Doblerness.Amy Guthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07953635936865835997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-53807615634093897642008-06-06T12:43:00.000-04:002008-06-06T12:43:00.000-04:00Great article! I can relate to it all too well. I'...Great article! I can relate to it all too well. I'm glad there's hope out there because I'm so tired of Vince Vaughns. You have inspired my girlfriends and I to find our Lloyds. I love that movie, too. Did you know there's a gallery in Wicker Park named after him? Thanks for this!Garinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18100664258140920135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-33149332498964692012008-06-02T18:51:00.000-04:002008-06-02T18:51:00.000-04:00Thanks, Smussy! Shannon Erin - glad to hear it!Thanks, Smussy! <BR/><BR/>Shannon Erin - glad to hear it!Elizabeth Cranehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12506529878062016297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-24088045403107960722008-06-02T17:00:00.000-04:002008-06-02T17:00:00.000-04:00He lives in my house too!He lives in my house too!Shannon Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06591509147432461043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-30360583653794358382008-05-30T14:35:00.000-04:002008-05-30T14:35:00.000-04:00i've loved lloyd dobler since ever i first laid ey...i've loved lloyd dobler since ever i first laid eyes on him. seriously. <BR/><BR/>great piece. because i believe what you say. because you give me writing inspiration. because i love lloyd dobler.<BR/><BR/>i'm forwarding this to a friend.smussyolayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01143163489097921644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-53430309438435892672008-05-30T12:14:00.000-04:002008-05-30T12:14:00.000-04:00I like your idea, Dan. And I suspect you're total...I like your idea, Dan. And I suspect you're totally a Lloyd Dobler.<BR/><BR/>Louie - um, did I touch a nerve?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-5487529349895368512008-05-30T12:07:00.000-04:002008-05-30T12:07:00.000-04:00A long but good post. For a guy, Lloyd is a tough...A long but good post. For a guy, Lloyd is a tough cookie to live up to. The actual version of Lloyd is usually quite dull at first b/c you don't have insight into his kickboxing and charm until you get to know him. I find that most women want a Lloyd but they don't want to date guys that appear boring - but if you could imagine Lloyd in an office environment, he'd probably keep to himself and be quite shy. <BR/><BR/>Women, if that's what you want, then go tap those guys on the shoulder and invite them to lunch instead of reading articles like this and waiting for someone to look at your picture in the yearbook and calling you upLouiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10981723614670046785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-34149778687710581182008-05-30T00:52:00.000-04:002008-05-30T00:52:00.000-04:00"Lloyd, Lloyd, all null-and-void." was my hero. I ..."Lloyd, Lloyd, all null-and-void." was my hero. I wanted to be him in my senior year of high school, and none of my friends could understand why. He was also a good role model for a guy going into college, I believe. I also believe that Say Anything should be shown in high school sex ed classes for both boys and girls and your piece should be read along with it. But, that's just what I think.Mistah Kurtz He Deadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06373469562472425873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-60458422064657300592008-05-29T16:31:00.000-04:002008-05-29T16:31:00.000-04:00Aw, thanks, guys! Carolyn, you can, you can!Aw, thanks, guys! Carolyn, you can, you can!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-54795344462679049022008-05-29T16:21:00.000-04:002008-05-29T16:21:00.000-04:00dude. seriously. so good. wow. not that i think i...dude. seriously. so good. wow. <BR/><BR/>not that i think i can follow its advice much longer.<BR/><BR/>but it's lovely.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-88517249975977482972008-05-28T16:17:00.000-04:002008-05-28T16:17:00.000-04:00is it wrong that i want to print this out and read...is it wrong that i want to print this out and read it every night before i go to sleep?<BR/><BR/>or maybe when I wake up in the morning so i feel like maybe the boys of the world aren't so bad after all?igotmoxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06504486701865818592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10624981.post-17039827876464480062008-05-27T19:44:00.000-04:002008-05-27T19:44:00.000-04:00Um... I'm calling about the SHORT story... I thin...Um... I'm calling about the SHORT story... I think I got the wrong number.<BR/><BR/>But good luck on your Lloyd Dobbler thesis. I hope you get the Ph.D. or the certificate of completion, or whatever...<BR/><BR/>- Swinger/Blocked Caller from San DiegoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com